Our love affair with ComeCurous started when they rocked the cover of Issue 3, in what could be our most outrageously cheeky article to date. We adore everything about Reed and Florence and when they announced some new faces joining the team we were over the moon.
Here is a little introduction from the famous founding duo:
“Hi! It’s Florence and Reed again from the notoriously sexy ComeCurious. We’re so excited to introduce to you our new creators! We’ve been wanting to expand our platform for a long while, because the more people talking about sex openly, the more we can crush the taboos and stigmas around everything sex-related!
After meeting Drew, Six and Ben all separately whilst recording our podcast F**ks Given, we knew we had to get them involved in ComeCurious. Everyone had such unique experiences and opinions, we have learnt so much from them and we hope you do too!”.
SIX
Six (She/Her) is an Inclusive Astrologer, Master of Social Work (MSW), Human Sexuality PhD. Dropout and all-around Sagittarius.
Instagram/TikTok/Twitter/YouTube: @blackwomencry
Q: Tell our readers a little bit about yourself, where you’re from, what you do
Hello Babes! I’m Six and I am the token American addition to the Come Curious Crew! My personality is pretty much marked by an adventurous nature. Also, I’m pretty studious, love reading even though books take a lot longer to get through than I’d like!
Q: What are you excited about with Come Curious? Do you have a topic speciality?
Very excited to be working with a team, especially one that has an international presence. Definitely gives another reason to Come Curious. My topic speciality is inspiring conversations with astrology.
Q: What do you think about conventional conversations, education, and information on sex, and how do you think we can become better educated on sex and relationships
It is difficult to answer this question because sex education varies from household to household and it seems much of popular sex education derives from online. This is not necessarily a bad thing, it’s just important that advice is taken with a grain of salt and health professionals are available on an individual level to answer questions. Sex and relationships aren’t uniform and the experience can differ from person to person. One of the best way to become educated about sex and relationships is by approaching the topics with a willingness to learn (within reason).
Q: What is your one pet peeve about dating and relationships?
When hyper-focus is put on my race or when people hyper masculinise me (which often results due to misogynoir).
Q: What’s the one thing you want people to learn after watching you on Come Curious?
Self-discovery is a normal and natural part of life. No one person (other than yourself) can define who you are or what you like. So long as you’re being safe, sane, and consensual.
Q: Who’s your favourite queer icon?
Janelle Monae. She’s absolutely gorgeous, carries herself with an unspoken grace, and has a high level of respect for the sacrifices of those who came before her.
BEN
Ben Hurst (He/Him) is an activist, host, presenter, model, speaker and Head of Facilitation and Training at Beyond Equality, a company that educates and engages boys and men on gender equality, deconstructs and reconstructs masculinity and highlights how the patriarchy serves no-one. Ben discusses these topics online, most notably in his TEDx Talk, ‘Boys won’t be boys. Boys will be what we teach them to be’, and in print, with features in Stylist magazine, Postscript, and many more. Bens work focusses on dismantling the gendered stereotypes that men possess and encouraging them to explore their own relationship to masculinity.
Instagram: @therealbenhurst
Q: Tell our readers a little bit about yourself, where you’re from, what you do
Introductions are the worst ever. I feel like you made me do the hardest bit (which I resent) but I’m Ben! Hello everyone, I’m from a little town called Ilford which is like right on the border between East London and Essex and not super exciting but all the coolest people come from here (take my word for it). I work as the head of facilitation and training at an organisation called Beyond Equality who do lots of stuff around masculinities with men and boys, and then I do some hosting and presenting, some podcasting, a little bit of modelling and some other bits and bobs whenever I get the chance! Whatever’s fun or feels important really!
Q: What are you excited about with Come Curious? Do you have a topic speciality?
I’ve just started a mini-series on CCs IGTV called The Bare Minimum which is essentially lots of little sex Ed lessons for straight men! I used to teach sex Ed in schools a couple of years ago and I think the thing that really shocked me was how much I had to learn on the job! It kinda felt like I wasn’t really taught any of the stuff I was teaching kids which makes me wonder if other guys have been taught it either… So that’s what I’m hoping to tackle. Stuff around men’s sexual experiences and knowledge!
Q: What do you think about conventional conversations, education, and information on sex, and how do you think we can become better educated on sex and relationships
I guess I’d say conversation in all of its forms can be useful and is a major key. The big problem for me is that most of the info and education that’s about isn’t very accessible or engaging or informative so if we can collectively improve the quality then everyone can learn more and have better sexual experiences. That obviously means a lot of different things to a lot of different people but that’s just evidence of the fact that there’s a lot of work to be done!! Talking about sex has massively improved my sexual relationships so my hope is that we can do that for other people too!
Q: What is your one pet peeve about dating and relationships?
Ermmmm I don’t know if I have one! I think I’m probably other peoples pet peeve tbh lol! If I had to pick something I’d say communication gets really hard once you realise your partner is a whole other person with their own thought and feelings and ideals and all that stuff! But I guess that’s also the point? Idk
Q: What’s the one thing you want people to learn after watching you on Come Curious?
I think the one thing I’d love for guys to take away would be that sex can be about pleasure and not just performance! I think we often get so worried about doing it right or doing it the most or being the best that we forget to just enjoy it! I’d love for guys to feel more free to explore sexual expression and sexual pleasure, and for everyone to take better nudes lol
Q: Who’s your favourite queer icon?
Looool this would’ve been a hard question to answer a year ago but it’s definitely not a drag queen – it’s the QUEEN OF DRAG; RuPaul Charles! By far the most iconic media personality of my lockdown. Watching drag race (oftentimes on repeat) has kept me sane over the last year and also helped me a lot to expand my thinking on gender as performance!
DREW
Instagram and YouTube: @drewwyllie
Drew (He/Him) is a bisexual content creator whose all about sexual empowerment and spiritual elevation.
Q: Tell our readers a little bit about yourself, where you’re from, what you do
Hello unicorns!!!! My name is Drew, I’m a wise and manly content creator working to break out of the boxes society puts us in based on gender and sexuality. I use the internet to feel sexually empowered – and I want everyone to see that their sexuality is their greatest power!
Q: What are you excited about with Come Curious? Do you have a topic speciality?
Ermmm EVERYTHING! I’m so excited to explore sexuality, break taboos and expand my own queer identity whilst hopefully helping other people learn to love themselves. I would definitely say my speciality topic is sexual fluidity, and being a bisexual man. Growing up I never had any real bisexual male role models, so I would love to be able to help younger people feel more seen comfortable about their sexuality.
Q: What do you think about conventional conversations, education, and information on sex, and how do you think we can become better educated on sex and relationships
WHERE DO I START!!! I think hetero-normativity in society is the reason that many queer people feel unseen and grow up to feel like their desires and expression of gender is invalid. I think we need to be more inclusive and there needs to be open conversations and a serious increase in sex ed for ALL sexualities at school. I would say that we must learn to love ourselves and practice self-care before we even think about loving someone else.
Q: What is your one pet peeve about dating and relationships?
Dickmatisation – The act of being in lust/fascination with a particular male.
I have spent many months being obsessed with people that quite frankly… didn’t deserve my time or energy! I have realised through heartbreak, that this energy should be poured into myself first before others can have their own cup filled.
Q: What’s the one thing you want people to learn after watching you on Come Curious?
Bisexual men exist and we deserve to feel valid and be respected!
Q: Who’s your favourite queer icon?
Ooooooo this is such a hard one! I would say… Indya Moore is so so so amazing and breathtakingly beautiful. I love everything they stand for and the challenges they have overcome… wow. icon. Angel from pose is my IDEAL GIRLFRIEND. I’m rewatching pose and I’m simping hard x
Come Curious
Interviewed by Lev Alexander
